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    8/19/2006

    BLOG MOVED

    I have moved my blog to:
    7/4/2006

    just some updates:)

    I just finished writing an report on BEEM this afternoon. Now I don't really want to do anything constructive, so let me write something on this blog since I haven't touched it for a long long time.
     
    So A*STAR has finally allowed me to spend four years at Wellesley, though they still urge me to try my best to finish in three years. Thanks for the advices from Prof. Stark, Dean Tenser and Dean O'Keeke. Well, I shall see how it goes. But I guess spending four years at Wellesley is really worthwhile, though I will have to finish my PhD in four years.
     
    And I know my roommate already. She's just so amazing. She has fought against all odds and achieved so much. I really admire her. And I'll be living in Beebe Hall, which has a pirate culture:)
     
     
    {Em..there's something called "international talk-like-a-pirate day" there. Really interesting.
     
    "Most years, on the eve of September 19, Beebe residents are busy chalking the campus sidewalks with pirate sayings to alert other students. The more adventurous Beebe broads dress up or truly observe the day by talking like a pirate, much to the delight (and occasional confusion) of their peers and professors."
    5/31/2006

    A Big Thank You to All

    I think I am getting more and more lazy to write something here. Hope I haven't made all my visitors to this bloggie disappointed.
     
    There has been lots of emotional ups and downs for me in the past two weeks. Now things are getting more or less settled, and I've found a long list of people to thank. Many people whom I am going to thank won't visit here at all, but I still want to write about them here.
     
    It has been really difficult to find two guarantors. After all, what Mdm. Teng said in class last year and what Mrs. Chew has been telling me are not wrong. But in these two weeks, I have found so many people who trust me so much and are willing to lend a helping hand; and in fact, some of them never knew me before.
     
    Firstly, a big thank you to my mummy and Serene for cheering me up. At one point of time I nearly thought of giving up, as my only relative in Singapore was not willing to help me. I was wondering who would ever help if even my own relative wouldn't want to. Thank Serene for telling me "never give up until the last minute", and giving me so much encouragement in the past two weeks.
     
    And I am really grateful to Mr. Kadir, who trusts me so much and has given me so much support. I was really startled when he said an assured and cheerful "of course" just after my first sentence on the phone. Although he couldn't become my guarantor because he is already a guarantor for somebody else, his "of course" let me see some hope. I am so fortunate to have such a wonderful teacher, who has given me tons of encouragement and guidance during my two years in RJ, and is always willing to help me and cheer for me even after I graduated.
     
    Of course I would like to thank my two guarantors as well. Both of them never knew me before, but they helped me without doubting my character at all. Since they trust me so much, I shall be responsible in the years to come. (Anyway it is against my value to break bond. I don't want to feel guilty because of any selfish means. And I will never dare to hurt the feelings of people who have been trusting me. As what my father has been telling me, any person shall not think about his own benefits only.)
     
    And there are many others who have helped me in the past two weeks. Thanks to Mr. Phang Father and Mr. Phang Son, my father's high school principal, Hui Xian, my aunt's boss and his wife, my jiu ma and her sister-in-law, my grandmother and Mr. Lim. And not to forget my father, who came all the way to Singapore to help me to settle this. And I would also like to thank all my friends who unknowingly helped by chatting with me online. Actually, two days before the deadline, I still hadn't found my second guarantor; somebody gave me a game to play and as a result, I managed to put my worries aside:)
     
    I just feel that I am so lucky. I am really touched to receive all the care and help. And I am really really grateful.
     
    I know that I am making a huge commitment here. This is not just 14 years; it is likely to be many many more years.  But since I've made such a decision, I shall just go on without regret.
     
    And here's a message for tomorrow: 儿童节快乐! 
    5/13/2006

    Nostalgia

    Liu Cong left for home this morning; and I woke up to send her off at 4am. In fact, I intended to stayed awake until that time, but I just couldn't force my eyes open when the clock struck 2am.
     
    We hugged each other so tightly, saying "好好照顾自己“ to each other again and again. My eyes were tear-wet, though I tried my best to control myself. I just don't know when will be the next time that we see each other again.
     
    After the taxi left with her, I was alone again, heavy-hearted. Lying on my bed, I was just too sad to fall asleep again, although I was really sleepy.
     
    Farewell seems to be inevitable.
     

    This is just like what happed a few weeks ago when I sent Xiao Xu and Zhenyi off at the Shenzhen Airport. I watched them walking away, waving goodbye to them again and again until my father asked me to go. How I wanted to stay longer with them, even for one more second! I just wondered when we would see each other again.

     


    I went for RJCO concert at esplanade a week ago. Looking at all those familiar faces and instruments on the stage, I wondered how much I miss CO. Really. When the 05 concert struck the last note a year ago, I knew that I probably wouldn't have the chance to be in a CO any more. I felt the sense of loss. And I haven't recovered from this sense of loss even though one whole year has passed.

     

    I am still spending a lot of time on my pipa now, and it has become part of my life. But playing the intrument alone is never the same as playing it in an orchestra. Though I still have "flight of bumble bees" to drive me crazy, I miss those days that I got really stressed up because of CO.

     


    How I wish that there wouldn't be any farewell to all the things I love and all the people I love. But farewell is inevitable, because life goes on.

    4/26/2006

    College Choice

    This April has been torturous. Making a college choice was so difficult. I just realised how stressful it could be.
     
    So the story is about Cambridge Vs Wellesley. It is also a story about specialised education and all-rounded education.
     
    Before April, I was pretty determined to go to Cambridge. The lecture-supervision system and the one-to-two supervisions is not bad after all. And the whole Natural Sciences course is well organised. Also, there are lots of geniuses around, according to ma bill.
     
    But after quite a number of Wellesley students wrote me personal e-mails, I started to realise that Wellesley really has a caring and supportive environment. Then a Physics professor wrote me a personal e-mail as well. Comparing to all the mass-sending e-mails from other institutions, Wellesley really seems to be special. I applied because I heard of the caring and supportive environment there; now this kind of environment is tempting me to enrol. Also, the facilities and campus environment there seem to be fascinating as well:) And the cross-registration with MIT is pretty attractive since I'm not smart enough to get into MIT.
     
    It has been really reaaly hard to make the choice. My anxiety was so evident while I was playing the pipa. I just couldn't calm myself down while I was playing it.
     
    I called Xue laoshi last Saturday. To my surprise, he said I shall choose Wellesley, 毫不犹豫,义无反顾, before I gave him any description of the two schools. He was the one who helped me to make the decision to go to Singapore a few years ago; and now I've found that going to Singapore was quite a wonderful choice to make. All the while, he treats me like his daughter, giving me lots of suggestions and advices, even after I went to Singapore. I have lots of faith in his advice.
     
    So I am choosing Wellesley.
     
    The only thing that I am quite concerned about may be the all-girl environment; both Yexin and CaiLing said boys think from a different perspective from the girls, and I agree with that. But the all-girl environment provides lots of opportunities for the girls as well, which would not be possible at a co-education school.
     
    Yang Hao once said that I shall choose Cambridge if I want to be a science researcher, and choose Wellesley if I want to be a powerful woman. Now the case is: I want to be a science researcher and I am choosing Wellesley. Is it a bit contradicting?
     
    I can't say that this is my final decision as I still have not convinced my father, who thinks that undergraduate courses should be quite specialised. (But I guess he will respect my choice; however, it is still quite important to convince him.) And there is the possibility that I will be convinced to go to Cambridge by my father.
     
    But no matter which school I choose, I won't regret. I'll be able to enjoy my life at both schools; it is just that life will be quite different.

    蛋蛋!~^~

    蛋蛋你怎么可以点我名啊!下回我要罚你做多点蛋给我吃!!!!!!!
    下不为例啊!

     

    被点名的朋友需在自己的Blog里公开 8个理想伴侣的条件,同时加上说明:
    A.
    理想伴侣是男或是女?    --hmm, isn't that obvious?
    B.
    必须点名8个人。--hmm, against my principle
    C.
    被点名的人不可重复被点,每个人只可玩一次  --anybody interested in listing 16/24/... criteria? i won't stop you from playing more than once:)

     

    1. He cares about me!

    2. He's honest and upright.

    3. He must have a brain:)

    4. pending

    5. pending

    6. pending

    7. pending

    8. pending

     

    Seriously, I've never thought about these. I guess you are not going to consider all these when the right person really comes. Before the right person comes, all these are not important as well. After the right person comes, there's no need to consider these. So why are we listing all these criteria?

    4/10/2006

    A Challenging Question (Must Try!)

    This question is so difficult. Everybody (especially Chemistry students) must try. I did not manage to work out the answer on my own.
     
    So here it is:
     
    Under certain conditions, B is changed into A. In boiled water, B is transformed into C. Under room conditions, C can be oxidised into D. D has the smell of rotten eggs.
     
    What are A, B, C and D respectively?
     
     
    ------for the suggested answer to this question, please see comments.
    3/23/2006

    凤凰木

    《凤凰木》
    ------深圳中学校歌
     
    你叶儿茸茸,你枝儿丛丛
    春风吹夏雨浓,花开如霞涌 
    披着晨光,深情凝望
    满园都是丹凤起舞朝阳红
     
    你干儿苍苍,你根儿重重 
    秋风吹冬雨浓,傲然露峥嵘
    踏着夕阳,深情仰望
    满园都是苍龙盘踞云横空
     
    凤凰木,是凤是龙
    凤凰木,心中的梦
    今天我们守望在你的身边
    明天是你陪伴我们驾长风

     
    《缘同根同心相通》
    ------深圳中学校友之歌
     
    同样的年华同样的梦
    同样的向往到深中
    同样晒布岭
    同样凤凰木
    同样的缘分叫深中

    同样的年华同样的梦
    同样的感动在深中
    同样的烛光
    同样的海风
    同样的名字叫深中
    我们缘同根同心相通
    春去秋来我们盼重逢
    风雨人生
    南北西东
    你是我的彩虹,我是你的亲朋。

    同样的年华同样的梦
    同样的依恋叫深中
    同样的英雄路
    同样的儿女情
    同样的思念叫深中

    我们缘同根同心相通
    春去秋来我们盼重逢
    风雨人生
    南北西东
    你是我的彩虹,我是你的亲朋。


           突然来了点灵感在网上闲逛,看到了许多已经疏于联络的朋友们的blog,也听到了这两首我在深中时未曾听到过的歌。

          掰掰手指算算(其实不用掰手指也算得清楚),离开那个校园已经四年有多了,但对于那里的人,那里的事,我依然有许多丝依恋。尽管在那里只有短短两年,但两年足以在我的心中烙下很深的印记。

          某人在blog上把我叫做"muggist mugger" (Mug means studying very very hard in Singlish.) 我想我如果没在深中呆两年的话我是不会变成muggist mugger的。 班主任双双老师威力无穷啊,被他教了两年我竟然变得越来越喜欢学习了,自己也不知道是怎么回事。后来这种对做作业的热忱就一直持续到现在,也怪不得人家叫我muggist mugger了:p Tutorials也做得得心应手啊,我想这也得归功于深中的老师们给我打下了的基础。感激不尽啊。

          在深中的两年里还碰到了一位对我影响极大的恩师,他几乎颠覆了我原有的世界观。现在翻翻那两本写满了他的红字迹的随笔本,真为自己遇到了这么一位伟大的老师而倍感幸运。如果没有他,或许我今天也不会在星岛-----当时是他“举双手双脚赞成”并且大清早煲电话粥劝我不要放弃这个机会,我才勉强同意去参加新加坡的考试的。后来的辩论比赛他几乎成了我的遥控教练,RGS拿了冠军他帮了不少。每次放假回家我都去看他,记得有一次他还带着我跑出学校到一间超市里买番茄汁给我喝,说“这一瓶番茄汁等于五个番茄,很好的”。但很可惜来了新加坡之后,我的中文退化不少,原来的文学梦也渐行渐远了。

     

          一直有人问我当年离开深中到底是不是一个正确的选择。其实我不知道。我只知道我没有后悔的余地。既然当年RGS的老师们在名单上轻轻一勾把我的命运的轨迹deviate了,我就得顺着这个新的方向走下去。

          想想这几年做了什么,好像也没做什么,就是顺着特定的轨道做了些自己该做的东西。碰到了许多好朋友,许多关心我的人;领略了许多天才和怪胎的风采;学了琵琶,在乐团enjoy了几年;决定了未来的路通往science lab……

          春节的时候给薛老师打电话,老师说:“我知道这几年来,你一直没有放弃过努力。” 我没有放弃努力的资本啊,四年前从白云机场飞过来后我就无法选择回国了。现在想想,我没有对不起自己,我努力了,我也享受着我的生活。心安理得就对了,尽管我不能很肯定地说四年前离开深中是个绝对正确的选择。

     

          如果让我从新选择的话,我会选择那条路呢?这是个很没有意义的问题。Yexin, QiQi, 你们觉得呢?

    3/21/2006

    8+1饭团的朋友们

    A-level results release之后饭团再度开饭时照的照片。
    现在看看真有点形态各异啊:)
    3/10/2006

    A-level results

    1st March
     
    A-level results were finally released. This marked the full-stop of my JC life.
    My results were within my expectation. They were exactly the same as my prelim results. (That was what happened two years ago as well.)
     
    I was waiting for Charmaine at Bishan MRT before our class lunch. When I saw her, she told me that she needed to be at RJC in 15 minutes time. CONGRATULATIONS! It was really wonderful seeing my close friend emerge as a top scorer. I felt excited for her, and I'm really proud to have such a close friend.
     
    The class lunch was a bit quiet. I guessed everyone was somewhat nervous. Besides admiring Sze Kiat's muscle, I think we did not have much laughter.
     
    When we reached the RJC Multi-purpose Hall, Mr. Hodge was about to start his speech. After a few sentences, he started to annouce the winner for that top physics prize. I really dared not thinking about the prize. Although  Mr. Kadir had been encouraging me to work for that since June 2004, I think I shouldn't put too much pressure onto myself. So when Mr. Hodge said "also from 2S01A, Zhuang Bilin", my heart almost jumped out. Mr. Kadir and Ms. Wang were smiling to me when I stood up. I shook hand with both of them and said thank you. At least I haven't made Mr. Kadir disappointed.
     
    Then Yi Ming and Charmaine went up to the stage as they were the top scorers. I cheered for Charmaine as she walked up to the stage. How wonderdul is that! we have two top scorers in the class!
     
    We were told that we got "the best in 25 years". I seriously did not think that we were so good. Maybe that was because the papers were harder than those of the past, so there was an advantage for Rafflesians.
     
    Then we were queuing up to get our results. Isty got her results. She was so excited that she cried. She hugged me and thank me for helping her. I felt so touched. She had been so hardworking, and she really deserved the wonderful results that she has got.
     
    After getting the results, we went around to thank the teachers. Ms. Wang was still making joke about my S-paper tuitorials being mass produced. At the same time, I took a while to look at my testimonial. Reading what Mr. Kadir has written, I was really touched. Somehow I felt like crying at that moment.
     
    After settling everything, I suddenly felt very very sad. Nostalgia seemed to be unavaidable. Well, it was the grand fenale to my two years in RJC. I miss the people there. I miss the events there.
     
    Those were the two happiest years for me so far. Many thanks to Charmaine, who has been offering her valuable ideas in our daily conversations; to Zhenyi, Xu Sheng and Liu Cong, who have given me a sense of belonging to RIB; to Mr. Kadir, who has been encouraging us and entertaining us; to Ms. Wang and Mdm. Teng, who were always wise and inspiring; to Mrs. Leong, who is having more and more white hairs. And I feel sorry to Miss Soh as we were so stone during her lessons...The list goes on...Thanks everybody in 2S01A!
     
    When I was enjoying my life in 1A, I knew that I would surely miss it after I graduated. Now I really do.
    2/27/2006

    回来一星期了

    还是趁着我的电脑还算比较正常的时候写点什么东西吧。最近这台电脑就像张爱玲笔下的香港女人一样,变幻无常。说不定连这篇东西都还没有写完它就又要发作了。
     
     
    回到新加坡已经一个星期了。弟弟在家里嚷嚷着要我回家,拿完A-level成绩就回家,还答应了拿他春节的利市钱赞助我回家的飞机票。我也想弟弟啊,他呱呱坠地到现在差不多一个年代了,可是直到这个春节我才发现姐弟俩之间的亲情可以像麦芽糖一样。陪他练钢琴陪他减肥帮他检查作业,他的存在让我很快乐,我在他身边也尽到了一份姐姐的责任。我回新加坡之前的那个晚上,他硬是要把他自己的房间甩了,跑到我房间睡。内疚啊,离开家几年,在他的成长中没留下些什么印记,除了对姐姐的崇拜。在这个还算漫长的假期以后,恐怕能够天天陪着他的日子也不多了。
     
    当年爸爸妈妈不惜重金给我一个弟弟,我真得很不理解。当时在学校当大队长,对于党和国家的政策是极其拥护的。但在过去的九个年头里,我越发觉得弟弟的可贵。
     
     
    除了去A*STAR accessment centre的那天,过去的七天挺孤独。每天弹琴学习,有点闭门修养身心的感觉。独自走在林荫路上,隐隐感觉这个静谧的城市既熟悉又陌生。虽然对这个城市存有许多依恋,这里依然不是我的家----或许将来会变成我的家,又或许不会。我无法预测未来,就像四年前飞机在樟宜机场着陆的那一刻一样。
     
    开始怀念RIB的生活了,RIB那拥挤吵闹的房间依然记忆犹新。RIB的学妹们要珍惜啊。
     
    祝J3的朋友们3月1日那天拿到满意的成绩!
    2/20/2006

    birthday

    这是昨天该写的,今天补写。
     
     
    2月19日 正月二十二 雨水日
     
    除了年份,日历上与十九年前那天可谓惊人的重合。十九年来的第一次。日历上的数字轮回着,很多年在不经意间就从指尖划过了,像雨水一样抓也抓不住。
     
    外公外婆姨姨姨丈舅舅舅妈表弟表妹,能数得上的全来了,家里挤了十九个人,既像幼儿园又像集市。
     
    早上去了喝早茶,然后去爬山。山上的风景还真不错,雨过天清的时候,下面水库给人一种既开阔有迷茫的感觉(只要不去想那水库里面的水该有多脏)。几个小孩子爬着山还要争第一,结果渴得不行,抢BB奶瓶里的水喝,搞得BB大不乐意的(for those who are calling me BB, 这个BB不是我)。最后奶瓶里的水一滴都没有了,幸亏山下有些什么泉水,才让几个小孩喝饱了。
     
    下午我的电脑老死机,把照片做成VCD给外公外婆看忙了我一个下午。结果最后还没把曲子选对,小姨选了个《葡萄熟了》,中间有段悲凉得可以。快要吃晚饭了才急急忙忙用《花好月圆》重刻了一张碟。
     
    晚餐妈妈做了好多好多东西。二姨还没到,小朋友们就在抢红烧乳鸽吃。我最喜欢吃那个红蟹了,好鲜甜啊,怪不得小徐老是要吵着吃蟹。(其实是早上买不到大虾才买了红蟹的。)
     
    吃蛋糕又是小孩的专利了。但到送来以后BB就一直守着那个蛋糕,良苦用心啊。吃的时候小姨把奶油往二姨鼻子上一抹,哎呀。。。
     
    好难得的一个生日在家里过啊。下一次在家过生日又不知是什么时候了。
     
    谢谢爸爸妈妈!
     
     
    后记:好像好流水账啊。管不着了。今天刚到新加坡有点累。真不想离开家里。不知为什么今天哭了差不多一天,以前不会的。
    2/18/2006

    Giving Tuition

    I'm giving tuition to a guy downstairs these days because his step-grandmother, a retired teacher, assumed that I'm very pro. Since I'm free, I just went down to help, although I don't know how much I've actually helped.
     
    The guy is so quiet, probably because his parents divorced when he was very young. (As I say this, I feel that Qiao Li is really really extraordinary. I really admire her.) And he is quite rebelious towards the adults. Moreover, he does't do his homework (even though China has tons of strict teachers.) He would have become a so-called 烂仔 if his step-grandmother was not strict with him. Thank goodness his step-grandmother has been strict enough.
     
    When the tuition just started, gosh, I thought I would not be able to take it. I was like talking to a stone, and it was so hard to squeeze a word out of him. I actually thought of escaping. I even wanted to find an excuse to go back to Singapore. But there was no choice; I had to continue.
     
    I managed to squeeze more and more words (even some sentences) out of him. Hooray! His step-grandmother told me that I would have done a good job if i could squeeze one sentence out of him. Now I can tell myself that I've done a good job.
     
    As I have to go back to Singapore next Monday, the tuition has to stop today. I don't want to go back to Singapore now. Giving tuition is not that bad after all. At least I have got used to it, and I think I'm doing better and better.
    2/17/2006

    专业“术语”

    早上去人民医院抽血,sigh,发现自己真是好久没有见识到中国护士的服务态度了。
     
    抽完血,那护士抓着棉签,狠狠地说了一句:“按住!”——其实我并没有听清楚她说了什么,但我猜测她是这么说的。于是我抓着棉签给自己止血,但血还是流出来。
     
    那护士看着,又凶狠狠地说了一句:“你懂不懂什么叫棉花啊?你抓住的叫棉签,那一头白色的才是棉花!“Wow, 原来还有那么专业的术语啊——一根“棉签”棍子的那头叫棉签,白色的那头叫棉花,合在一起叫什么我不知道。我以前还以为这整根东西就叫棉签,上面的棍子就是专门用来给人抓的呢,看来我是不够专业啊。
     
    结果那护士还没说完,又来了一句:“你还是戴眼镜的,读书人啊,连这个都不懂!” 我猜想这个护士当年肯定读不好书,才把读书人都调侃成《儒林外史》里的人物。是啊,我读了这么久书还真不知道什么是棉签。
     
    看来现在当病人也要专业一些,棉签棉花之类的“术语”还是得懂懂的。去到医院里,给你一根棉签让你按住上面的棉花——真纳闷,她怎么就不直接给你(那种一团团的)棉花呢?多了根棍子既浪费资源又碍事。
     
    2/14/2006

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    2/12/2006

    Primary School Classmates Meeting

    I had a dinner with some of my primary school classmates on Friday. But I couldn't call it a class outing----there were only five of us. It was so hard to get people to come for the meeting. Lots of my classmates have already been working. (And some even have kids!) On top of that, some may felt that they have not achieved enough (e.g. haven't got into a good uni) to come for such a meeting.
     
    But anyway, we had a pretty nice meeting; at least I've enjoyed myself. Probably, that was because there was only a handful of people. We wouldn't have a condusive environment for chatting if there were too many people.
     
    Chang Xinyue has changed a lot. He is so talkative now. I remembered him as an "a-bit-shy" guy in P6. But maybe I was wrong. He's in The Hong Kong University of Science and Technology now, and I could sense that he's doing extraordinarily well in his studies. After half a year in Hong Kong, he couldn't get rid of English in his conversation in mandarin. And he likes to put "something like that (English)" after explaining everything. I actually suggested him to write an autobiography; in fact, what his said in that evening can make up a chapter. em...maybe he should write it later instead so that his book can be thicker:)
     
    Tang Minshi is studying law. (That's pretty unexpected.) She might not like it now, and she actually wants to change her course. But I think she can put law into good use after she graduates. And Minshi is as talkative as usual; she is in contact with a lot of ex-classmates:) She was the vice-chair of the class last time, and she still looks like one now.
     
    Huang Qiaolin still has some "sisterly kindness". She is studying 社工 now. I personally think that she looks like a 社工. Moreover, she's really helpful. I'm quite sure she will become a very good social worker in the years to come.
     
    Zheng Xiaowen is still a quiet girl, but she's cute. She told me on the phone that University Year 1 life is really boring, and she miss the high school days. (She actually prefers Senior Three to Uni. Strange. Senior Three is horrible to many people.) Anyway, I think she's going to enjoy uni life soon. Once she gets busy in Year 2, she'll enjoy it. 
     
    Just wanna wish everybody all the best. I hope that I have the chance to meet more primary school classmates in the years to come.
     
     
     

    月季花展

    在人民公园看的。那些月季花还真得蛮漂亮,特别是花瓣上还蘸着露水的时候。只可惜有些花可能在春节期间被游人糟蹋了。
    2/7/2006

    天啊!

    竟然有这种事发生。。。
     
    电视上说是“深圳最好的重点高中”,那肯定就是深圳中学了。业馨还推断说不定这就是我超常班的学弟。
     
    不管怎么说,我真可怜他的父母,家里大概也就这么一个孩子,况且儿子的学习成绩还这么好。
     
    各位朋友们一定要珍重,不管什么事发生。
     
     
    全文转载如下
     
    深圳重点中学高才生自缢身亡 留下黛玉葬花词

    梁永建 陈亮 2006/02/07





    留下黛玉葬花词,其父母称常看《红楼梦》对儿子有消极作用

    2月4日(农历大年初七)中午,深圳某重点高中高一学生小军(化名)突然在家中自缢身亡,没有留下任何遗书,但在其桌上发现留有《红楼梦》里的黛玉葬花词。而据小军同学的家长称,小军所上重点高中一直安排有心理辅导课程。可是后来,学校把小军所在特长班的心理辅导课取消了,而其他班的则依然保留。

    自缢前曾在网上聊天,没有留下遗书

    据小军的邻居邓女士回忆,2月4日中午,小军的父母外出,中午1时许回到家中。随后小军的爸爸去做饭,妈妈去晾衣服。忙完后,两人突然叫不开儿子房门,见状不妙才急忙撞开门,这才发现孩子已经在屋内自缢。

    邓女士告诉记者,孩子送到医院后因为缺氧太久不治身亡。而据推测,小军应该是在中午12时30分左右自缢的。邓女士说,小军没有留下任何遗书。但在他桌上发现了《红楼梦》中的黛玉葬花词。

    小军的父母说,儿子自缢前曾在网上聊天。因为有聊天密码,他们正在找朋友尝试打开。两人很想知道小军在离开前最后都聊了什么,希望以此走入儿子的内心世界。

    小军父母称儿子平时爱看佛教书籍及《红楼梦》

    小军的父母均是本科毕业,两人只有这一个儿子。他们告诉记者,孩子一直很正常,上高中后只是话少了点,孩子和两人之间也没有闹矛盾,以两人的知识层面,他们和孩子交流也不存在问题。此外,学习对儿子也应该不构成什么压力。直到现在,两人对孩子自缢的原因仍然充满疑问。

    回忆小军去世之前的情景时,小军的父母表示,儿子上高中后开始看佛教的书,另外还喜欢看《红楼梦》等,小军的父母认为常看《红楼梦》对儿子有消极作用。

    另外,小军的同学告诉记者,小军曾说过“死亡获得解脱”“他不会选择上吊自杀,因为太难看了”等等话语。但大家当时都把他的话当做戏言。

    初中一直考第一,考大学只认清华北大

    昨日(6日),在小军的追悼仪式上,其母数次昏厥在地,“他还有几天就16岁了,他太优秀了,初中一直在班中考第一。”

    小军初中时的班主任回忆说,小军一直异常优秀,在朗诵、英语、演讲等各种比赛中经常获奖。“他在初中是一个全校闻名的好学生,随便找人打听都知道他。”

    “他考高中时,考了770多分,而他的目标是800多分。”小军的妈妈说,“他太追求完美了。” 小军初中的班主任说:“他考上重点高中还对我们老师说,他对校长和老师最有感情,舍不得学校。可是他说,他大学除了清华、北大,其他学校不上。重点高中考上的机会很大。”其他老师介绍说,“他说,他到另外一所学校后,一定给母校争光,闯出一番天地来。我们所有的老师都觉得,几年后,他考上清华、北大没有一点问题。”

    同学家长称小军所在班级无心理辅导课

    小兰(化名)和小军不但是初中同学,而且一起进入了同一所重点高中,只是不在同一班。小兰的家长刘先生介绍说,该重点中心学校中考后,几乎网罗了全市最好的学生,而小军所在的班级最强,比重点班都好,属于特长班,老师指导该班的学生参加全国各类数理化比赛。刘先生还表示,小军上的重点高中一直安排有心理辅导课程。可是后来,把特长班的心理辅导课取消了,而其他班的则依然保留。

    小兰告诉记者,在这样的班级中,小军的成绩依然很优秀,性格也没有什么不正常,只是不再像初中那样担任很多班级上的职务。

    “只是他上高中后,和父母沟通少了。”小军的初中班主任说,“上高中后,我听到这个消息还曾经开导过他:不能上了重点高中,就不理父母了。而他回答说根本没有这回事。”

    ■他为何自缢

    学习压力?

    学校里作业太多  小军同学家长 刘先生

    现在的学生真是不容易。我早晨还在睡觉,女儿已经上学了。我晚上睡觉了,女儿还在做作业。小时候,我们夫妻两人喜欢吹拉弹唱,也教女儿很多乐器玩。但女儿上中学后,他们就把这些乐器全部打包了。

    我女儿做作业是一把快枪手,但是通常都要做到半夜。一次,我把女儿作业中的一道题,让一个博士朋友做。结果博士朋友做了一上午,都摇摇头说做不出来。可是,这些中学生有人很快就做出来了,他们天天训练这些。

    青春迷惘?

    他需要心理老师 小军初中班主任

    从外在表现看,小军的确很正常;而从他自杀的结果看,他可能有隐性的“抑郁症”。另外,他正处在青春期,情绪波动,对生命很容易感到迷惘。这个时候,他最需要一个心理老师来指导。

    有抑郁症?

    自杀是抑郁的症状

    英国York大学心理学博士生 Cisy 自杀是抑郁的症状之一,小军为什么会抑郁我们目前还不十分清楚,可能是小军追求完美造成,也可能他遭受了一些我们不知道的“挫折”。但我想强调的是,一个不满16岁的高中学生做出这样的举动,我们或许要看看他背后的成长环境。

    ■黛玉葬花词(节选)

    花谢花飞飞满天,红消香断有谁怜?游丝软系飘春榭,落絮轻粘扑绣帘。

    闺中女儿惜春暮,愁绪满怀无着处,手把花锄出绣帘,忍踏落花来复去?

    柳丝榆荚自芳菲,哪管桃飘与李飞,桃李明年能再发,明年闺中知有谁?

    ……

    怪侬底事倍伤神?半为怜春半恼春,怜春忽至恼忽去,至又无言去不闻。

    昨宵亭外悲歌发,知是花魂与鸟魂?花魂鸟魂总难留,鸟自无言花自羞。

    愿侬此日生双翼,随花飞到天尽头。天尽头!何处有香丘?

    未若锦囊收艳骨,一抔净土掩风流,质本洁来还洁去,强于污淖陷渠沟。

    尔今死去侬收葬,未卜侬身何日丧?侬今葬花人笑痴,他年葬侬知是谁?

    试看春残花渐落,便是红颜老死时。一朝春尽红颜老,花落人亡两不知!

     

    from: http://www.szonline.net/Channel/content/2006/200602/20060207/403219.html

    2/6/2006

    flowers

    Let me start with something that I really like-------flowers!
     
    Before the Chinese New Year, my father and I brought some flowers back home. All the flowers were free, probably because of a corrupt leader up there who could just sign the bill to make the flowers free. ehem. Maybe he is not corrupt after all. Tons of leaders in China are doing that. They are just powerful.
     
    (During the Chinese New Year, another leader signed the resteraunt bill for a gathering that my family attended. ehem.)
     
    Anyway, it is not my business whether other people are corrupt or not. I just care about the flowers.
     
    The top one in the first column is 月桂 (Laurel). This is the pink one. The flower does not look very nice. Sometimes shortsighted people can hardly see the flowers as they don't have bright colour. But they have wonderful smell.
     
    Then the top one in the second column is 杜鹃, 又叫映山红(Azalea). 好看而已,一点都不香。
     
    The second one in the first column is ...i can't remember. Sorry. But it has something to do with the space. Probably it is related to the Shenzhou Spaceship. There was a long introduction to it at the place that sold the flowers.
     
    The second one in the second column is...百合 (Lily). It has strong and nice smell. I used to like it a lot. But somebody told me that it can be poisonous, so I dare not get close to it.
     
    The third one in the first column....again i can't remember. Let me check it our later.
     
    The third one in the second column is called 文心兰. It looks very pretty. Somehow it gives me a feeling of tranquility. But it has no smell.
     
    Hehe, the fourth one in the first column is my mother's favourite, because it can kill mosquitos. It is called 猪笼草, and it has a certain enzyme (liquid form) in the dark-red containers which can kill mosquitos. 
     
    Then the next two are orchids. They are too common, so I have nothing to say.
     
    The fifth one in the second column is 水仙. It is also very common. I like its smell.
     
    The bottom two are 风信子 (wind flowers)....MY FAVOURITE! So they are located in my bedroom-cum-study instead of the sitting room. They smell really nice, and they look cute!
     
     
     

    let me start writing something

    Happy Chinese New Year to all! (emm...a bit late.)
     
    This MSN space is more suitable for people like me. i.e. those who are not so technology-savvy. But I don't get to design my own blog here. (too bad.) I have another blog somewhere else, but I wanna let that blog remain a secret blog. If you happen to see it accidentally, ssssshhhhhh-----.
     
    I will put everything that I want to share in this MSN space. (But I can foresee that it will become a dead blog soon as I may not have the stamina to keep writing.)